Sunday, May 10, 2015

The Hardest Day of the Year

For most women, Mother's Day means a special meal.  Usually brunch or lunch out with the family or maybe a surprise of breakfast in bed.  There will be a showing of gifts - perfume, flowers, jewelry or maybe something hand made just for you.  It will be a day of joy and celebration.

But for others, Mother's Day is the hardest day of the year.

Instead of a necklace made of macaroni our "gift" is yet another negative pregnancy test, or the remembrance of a child that we lost.  Our "gift" is an empty crib, unused baby clothes, and a deep feeling of sorrow....or inadequacy....or worse.

We will probably be spending the day trying to celebrate with our own mothers and families.  We will be sitting at the table staring longingly at someone else's child, wondering why that can't be us.

Some of us are better adjusted than others.  Some of us spend the day enjoying playing with children and holding babies and being hopeful that next Mother's Day will be a celebration for us too.

Some of us are not doing as well.  It is hard for us to play with children and hold babies and we have stopped being hopeful that next Mother's Day will be any different than this one.

As you sit and enjoy your brunch and notice some woman looking sadly over at your table try to be compassionate.  Try to take a moment to be thankful for the family that you have been blessed with.

We are not all so lucky.

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